 Slipped on a wet floor and broke your leg? Contracted a chronic illness that makes it difficult for you to work? Whatever’s up with you, you might be thinking it’s going to make life harder for you to manage, especially when it comes to money, but you can stay financially afloat, even when your body is working against you. Here’s some ideas...
Connect If you want to stay financially afloat, then you need to face up to the fact that you are unwell, and you may need to take time off work, pay for medications and therapies, and all while still covering the bills. The best option to help you get a reality check is CALL YOUR FRIENDS and have good conversations. Ask for their outside perspective. Tell them the truth. Humans need connection. You may find help unexpectedly. Government support You might not have thought about it before, but right now, you may need some extra help and there is nothing wrong with seeing what you may be entitled to in the way of government support. Yes, the paperwork might make you feel even sicker, but the relief once you have some extra help coming in, will be worth it. Lawyer up I'm not a fan of litigation, however in certain cases it may be that a big company, with lots of spare cash has caused the issue and if it will help your recovery then make a claim. Whether you’ve been involved in a car accident, tripped over some poorly placed pavement, or had a run-in with malfunctioning equipment at work, personal injury solicitors can help you get some compensation. It’s a legit way to cover costs and get your life back on track. Raid Your Savings Wisely If you’ve got a rainy-day fund, now’s the time to whip out your metaphorical umbrella. But don’t go mad—this isn’t an excuse to blow it all on takeaways and fancy gadgets. Be strategic. Prioritise rent, bills, and any medical costs over that impulse buy for the latest coffee machine (no, you don’t need it). Budget Like a Boss If the word “budget” makes your eyes glaze over, stick with me. This doesn’t have to be a complex spreadsheet nightmare. Start simple: write down what’s coming in (even if it’s just a small amount) and what’s going out. Once you see where your money’s disappearing, you can start trimming the fat. Spoiler: those daily lattes might be the first casualty. Lean on Your People No one likes asking for help, but now’s not the time to be a hero. Whether it’s a loan from family, a meal train from mates, or a neighbour running errands for you, don’t be afraid to lean on your support system. Most people will be happy to help (and if they’re not, it’s time to reconsider your circle). Get Creative with Earning Being injured doesn’t mean you have to press pause on earning entirely. Depending on your situation, you might be able to take on some remote work. Writing, virtual assistance, tutoring—there are more opportunities than ever to make money from your sofa. Bonus: you don’t even have to wear proper trousers. Plan for the Future Once you’re back on your feet (literally or figuratively), take this as a learning experience. Invest in income protection insurance, build up those savings, and consider hiring a solicitor to sort out that other lingering issue (you know the one). Because let’s be honest, this probably isn’t the last time life’s going to knock you sideways. If you need some coaching support with this let me know: get in touch.
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 It’s time to stop being ashamed of your mental health and to start making some changes to the way that you live. We understand that there are times where it’s hard to talk about how you are feeling and the struggles that you are facing in your mind, but that shouldn’t stop you. Just because something is difficult, doesn’t mean that it’s not worth doing, you know? Being ashamed of mental health is an idea that we’ve created as a society for some reason, we now encourage you to break that mold. In this article, we’re going to be taking a look at some of the ways that you can do this, so read on to find out more.
Don’t Punish Yourself While this one should be obvious, you should not be punishing yourself for struggling with your mental health. Society may have decided that this is a normal way to behave, pushing down your struggles and feeling ashamed of yourself for having them in the first place, but it isn’t. You need to tell yourself that it’s okay to feel however you feel, and it’s about how you react that will be the most important thing. Too many people spend time taking their frustrations and anger out on themselves, and it isn’t fair. You have enough to deal with, without trying to punish yourself for feeling ill. You wouldn’t punish yourself for a broken leg, would you? Be Honest It’s also important that you are being honest as best you can about how you are feeling. Whether you want to talk to a professional, whether you want to talk to someone that you know and love, or whether you just want to write it all down in a journal, all of these options are fine. As long as you are getting out everything inside of you that is eating you up, this is what is important. Some people find it difficult to express themselves through conversation, so you can do this in whatever medium you want. You can write a song, you can paint a picture, you can do whatever feels right to you, and helps you express what’s going on inside of your head. Try New Things In order to improve your mental health, we encourage you to be open to trying new things. Of course, you don’t have to be open to everything, but some things will work for you, others won't. But, you’re not going to know until you try! For example, a doctor may prescribe you medical cannabis if you are okay giving this a shot, where others may recommend something else. Sometimes trial and error is the only way to go, but never be ashamed to ask for the help that you need, no matter what form it comes in. At the end of the day, your health is your own and it’s not something that anyone else gets to have an opinion on. We need to stop being so concerned with what other people think of us for the way that we choose to live our lives and the way that we choose to take care of our health, because it’s nothing to do with them. If you can get into this mindset, you will be so much better off for it, we can promise you that. If you'd like help improving your mental health with counselling and mindfulness just get in touch.  Being mindful is often linked with your mental well-being, but does it also affect your physical health? Mindfulness isn’t just about managing stress–it can also help with your physical health in a surprising number of ways that you might not think about. So let’s explore how mindfulness connects with physical health and the science behind it.
Mindfulness reduces stress and inflammation When the mind is calm, the body often follows suit. Stress can increase inflammation, which is linked to many health issues, including heart disease, arthritis, and digestive problems. Mindfulness helps reduce stress by calming the nervous system and decreasing cortisol levels, the body’s primary stress hormone. Lower cortisol means less inflammation, which can lead to fewer aches and pains, improved digestion, and a healthier heart. Practicing mindfulness encourages the body to relax, which helps the muscles release tension, improves blood circulation, and promotes healing. For example, when people meditate or practice breathing exercises, their heart rate often slows down, giving the body a chance to rest and recover. A more relaxed body also tends to have stronger immune responses, meaning you’re less likely to get sick. It helps with sleep and energy levels People who regularly practice mindfulness techniques, like meditation, often report sleeping better and feeling more refreshed during the day. Mindfulness helps calm racing thoughts that keep people awake at night, which is key to a restful sleep. When sleep quality improves, energy levels usually increase, helping people tackle daily tasks without feeling constantly tired or drained. Improved sleep helps repair: Deep sleep helps repair muscles, refreshes the mind, and balances hormones. This is why a functional medicine doctor might suggest mindfulness as part of a treatment plan for patients struggling with energy or fatigue. Mindfulness enhances heart health The heart benefits from mindfulness too. Studies have shown that mindfulness practices like meditation and deep breathing can lower blood pressure by promoting relaxation and reducing stress. Lower blood pressure means a lower risk of heart attacks and strokes, making mindfulness a powerful ally in heart health. Mindfulness also helps people make healthier choices, like eating balanced meals, avoiding smoking, and getting regular exercise–all of which support a healthy heart. When people become more aware of how their habits affect their health, they’re often more motivated to make positive changes that benefit both body and mind. It promotes a healthier immune system People who practice mindfulness regularly tend to get sick less often and have more energy, and this may be due to a stronger immune system. Studies show that mindfulness can boost the activity of the immune system, helping the body fight off infections and heal more quickly from illness or injury. A healthy immune system is vital for overall wellness and can protect against illnesses like the flu, colds, and even chronic diseases. This immune boost may happen because mindfulness reduces stress hormones, which can weaken immune function when they’re too high. By managing stress through mindfulness, the immune system can work more effectively, keeping people healthier and more resilient. If you'd like help improving health, sleep and energy levels with mindfulness just get in touch.  I'll preface this with a BIG caveat. All of the following is my OPINION, which is not based in research., but on my experience and ideas. This may be different to your experience. I'm open to hearing about this in the comments below. Please be nice. I'm not trying to attack you or anyone's disability. I struggle with ADHD symptoms and I have felt the shame and blame around my struggle with focus, hyperactivity and distractibility for most of my life. This is a very comprehensive review of ADHD if you're interested ADHD is Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Gabor Mate describes it a not heritable, nor an illness/ disease, but instead a stress response (from childhood) which results in neural pathways of:
Like Gabor, here are what I think are the causes of my ADHD: Stressed parents, chaotic childhood, bullying and bad teaching, a terrible diet and sedentary habits 1. Stressed parents. My parents were in a very tough situation when I was born. They both smoked and drank and they had relational issues. This meant I felt the stress even when in the womb, and certainly in my first few years of life, before memories formed. This leaves me with some physical symptoms that are somatic, but non verbal or image based. Our caregivers (usually parents, but could include other relatives, siblings and teachers) may have argued, been in poverty, been abusing substances or been the product of their own past traumas. They pass on stress, because as babies and toddlers we pick up on these cues of danger. Gabor mate talks about this here (with a really useful definition). If we have nowhere to go and we can't fight it off or change it we adapt to cope by scattering our attention. We become distracted as a survival / coping mechanism. This is complicated further by... 2. A chaotic childhood. My father was absent (working and providing) and when he was home he was often angry and there was a lot of shouting in my house. This was exacerbated by alcohol abuse. My older brother struggled at times which led to him being angry and often violent with me and I often didn't feel safe. This IS a type of prolonged trauma, which essentially gives children a level of CPTSD. Since I wasn't given many boundaries (as both parents were workaholics and very busy) then I needed something to feel safe and soothing. I adapted by retreating to my room - I watched lots of TV and later played computer games and around age 11 - porn . This fundamentally changed my brain and the way I interact with pleasure / dopamine. I used the wrong things to soother myself and get instant gratification, because I wasn't guided or supported to find better ways. Children are often overstimulated by the world they grow up in and they are not guided to learn to emotionally regulate. Not being given enough boundaries to make a solid morning and bedtime routine with regular sleep, quiet screen-free conditions, let alone any feelings of safety, consistency and unconditional love. If, like me, you were allowed to watch what you wanted, when you wanted, allowed to get way with staying up late and playing computer games, or even watching porn and lacking in emotional regulation then you increase your development of isolating ways of self soothing and a 'scattered mind'. Now if a child has access to their own device then screen based overstimulation becomes rampant, overloading the prefrontal cortex and conditioning the child to constantly seek more stimulation. This is further compounded by... 3. Bullying and bad teaching. This was awful for me, which meant I felt no safety at school or home for many years. My innocent early years were shattered by secondary school. I lived in a fantasy world to escape as no where else felt safe. If the school becomes a place of fear, boredom and a disorganised mind then its no wonder the mind gets trained into distraction. They mind will always adapt and work out ways to be OK enough, even if that means taking all the focus away from reality and living in a fantasy world of dissociation. This persists into adulthood. Also at school and home one can have... 4. A Terrible Diet: I'm blessed that my mum gave us a well balanced diet with home cooked food. However I was allowed far too many sweets. I had a mild biscuit addiction which lasted until I turned 30 I was getting feint and believe I had Prediabetes. I read 'The Easy Way to Quit Sugar' and I sorted it out, but it was tough. I'm also blessed to have a partner who understands nutrition and helps me eat less ultra processed food. I believe artificial 'food' substitutes, artificial colours, flavours and preservatives, along with ultra-processed ingredients and of course sugar compounds everything and changes the chemistry of the body to become accustomed to empty calories and therefore just seek more and more food. But not real, healthy, wholesome food, but the body is accustomed to cheap, substitute food, like chicken nuggets, sweets, white bread etc. This is also exacerbated by... 5. Sedentary habits: I was forced to sit down far too much at school and my home computer use made it worse again. I'm blessed to have discovered rock climbing and have a sporty mother who encouraged me out onto walks. Children are made to or encouraged to sit down way too much. The body needs to move, especially in children. They need to develop healthy habits around movement so they can grow good bones, muscles, tendons, cardiovascular health and brain health. It's all related to our familiarity with regular movement. If children sit in classrooms all day and then on computers, TVs or devices all evening then their bodies suffer and the brain doesn't develop properly. All these traumas, conditions and habits can set the foundation for adult life. ADHD is, I believe, a common outcome, especially now that we are all cyborgs. So what's the cure? Well if we put aside the genetic component (seeing as we cannot prove or do anything about this) and look at these factors we can try to give children healthy childhoods. (more below) Start with ourselves If you're an adult with ADHD, like me (thanks childhood) then you could try what I am trying to help yourself progress (not become perfect) into a calmer and more present and focused set of habits. 1. Learn to meditate. It's vital that you embrace boredom and reset your dopamine pathways to discover pleasure in more subtle things. Meditation is the best way to do this. Vipassana is the simplest way. A 10 day intense retreat is good, but you may want to prepare and warm up to it. It's a bit like running a marathon. Train first. 2. Fun movement. Find things that are fun. I like martial arts and frisbee and rock climbing. I can't just go to the gym or run - not enough dopamine. Find fun movement! I love to dance to great music. Find what works for you and build it into your routine. 3. Make a routine. Get good at bedtime and morning. Integrate movement and meditation into these. And do not use the devices in bed. Screen free mornings and bedtimes. Reduce screen time and notifications. Edit it right down to the bare minimum. 4. Sort out your addictions. Many ADHDers have them because that the result of the childhood stuff. Get yourself into a 12 or 10 step program of recovery (I did this and it's massive). And/Or... 5. Therapy / get help: Start. I recommend EMDR, somatic experiencing, parts work (IFS) or anything really. Just start to open up yourself to another human being and trust in a process of healthy recovery of your true nature so that you can understand where things went wrong and build in new healthy self-regulation and soothing practices with big dollops of compassion and clarity. Also in the UK get some help from 'Access To Work' - your disability deserves help. 6. Eat well. Stop buying crap and eat real food, with a healthy balance of colours and types. Personally I like a 50% meat/fish content. I also take supplements like creatine and vitamins. 7. Sort out your relationships: Isolation and social problems exacerbate everything. To help you here see a coach, go to workshops or couples counsellors. Start to have better friendships and better romantic, intimate and sexual connections. This may take time so finally... 8. Be kind to yourself. Whether or not you meditate, or even feel like you can meditate, practice kindness and compassion towards yourself. Then ADHD managed or un-managed is not such a terrible spectre looming over your shoulder. Patience, persistence and compassion are absolutely vital. This is where a life coach or self-help books can really help suffice your recovery with all lubricant and rocket fuel to make progress easier and faster. A book I read that I would highly recommend on ADHD is Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It by Gabor Mate I've improved my ADHD and you can too. Progress not perfection. If you do the work it works. If you'd like help talk to me and let's work together. And our children? None of this is easy and I'm only just a becoming a parent myself, so I know its full of guilt and impossible expectations. Ultimately we have to trust our instincts. I believe whatever we can do from this list will help. Progress not perfection. Here's my recommendations from seeing good parenting (by my partner):
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