These Are The Tools I Use:

1. MINDFULNESS (aware & allow)
This is the beginning of the work - practicing self awareness, on purpose, with less and less judgement, more and more acceptance, gradually. 
  • Weekly Classes: Come and try these practices with me
  • Presence Practice: bringing the wandering mind back to the present moment
  • Neuroception Training: Sensing bodily sensations helps us recognise states
  • Habit Holidays: Practice being kind to yourself and others
  • Drama Triangle: Understanding the roles we play.
  •  Gratitude Journaling: Practising gratitude for your life as it is
2. Body THERAPY (Healing the Hurts)
This is the bulk of the work for most of us - therapy that helps us heal our wounds and re-parent abandon parts of ourselves, so we can live whole and authentically. This is not easy or quick work, but in my experience, it is incredibly powerful. 
  • 1:1 Coaching and Counselling : Work with me directly for a tailored approach, where we can use:
  • Breathwork and Grounding: Learning simple ways to calm the nervous system
  • Mindful Massage and Movement: Refresh and relax the body
  • Somatic Experiencing and Pendulation: Using awareness of the body to discover and heal trauma
  • Counselling with Voice Dialogue Parts Work: Giving space to the inner parts to grieve, express, be seen, heard and understood helps us create inner peace and integration of our shadow
  • Trauma and Memory Healing: Psychotherapy to revisit the past, to grieve, revaluate and reintegrate.
3. ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT)
Combining coaching and counselling we can harness the power of the mind and build healthy habits of thought and action. We may need to first  work with the way the mind has been trained but soon we can become more aligned with our values and more disciplined in ourselves, rooted in love. 
  • ​6 Week Courses: Learn these skills in a group
  • Panicked Protector Parenting: Learning to spot and parent the parts of us that panic, to try and protect ourselves
  • The STOP technique: Challenging disempowering thoughts, stuck on repeat in four easy steps, based on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): Reframing unhelpful and irrational thought patterns.
  •  Comfort Zone Challenges: Taking tiny steps into new territory
  • Learning to Love:  Habitualizing love for ourselves and others
​4. Socialisation skills  (share & care)
We can't do this alone. We need networks of people - friends and family. We need to learn how to set boundaries and ask for help. This is the hardest thing you might do, because each person we relate to has their own mind--full-of-mess: traumas, triggers and stories. But it's what makes everything else worth it - the joy of friendship and community. 
  • Intimacy Workshops : Learning to enjoy the pleasure of being human
  • Wheel of Consent Practice: Find your truth in touch with others
  • The SAFER technique : Learn to relate in compassionate ways that help everyone to feel heard and understood. 
  • Boundaries work: Practice expressing your clear, loving edges 
  • Emotional Expression: Learn to dance, sing and make art with your emotions

To Help You Overcome...

​STRESS AND ANXIETY 
21st Century culture creates an abundance of stress and anxiety to such a level that people experience overwhelming stress, daily., leading to burnout, depression and suicide. You can change this, internally. 

WORRY AND ANXIETY
Modern culture cultivates competition. We show you how to FEEL deeply good about yourself- appreciate. 

PHYSICAL PAIN / ILLNESS  
I have tools that can help accept and therefore reduce pain - we can also cultivate the ability to relax the body which improves immunity, recovery and long-term health (see the science here). I have personally recovered from sever Scoliosis and spinal surgery. 

SELF-SABOTAGE AND DEPRESSION
I am not a counsellor, in the conventional sense, but these techniques are therapeutic and  can address negative emotional drops and thought spirals about ending life: helping people find ways to live happily. Learn how to find that place again that makes life worth living and combats the ENERGY SUCKING FLU of depression!

TENSION AND ANNOYANCE
It's possible to reduce your judgements and anger of others through awareness of your self.  You can cultivate patience and compassion, with ease.

CONFUSION AND INDECISIVENESS
Feel like you've lost your way or can't make up your mind? We show you simple tools to help.  
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Life can get us down - but why?
​GRIEF AND STUCK EMOTIONS
If you can't let go of a loss, we can help you move on.

APATHY AND LACK OF MOTIVATION
Need to find natural motivation, meaning and passion for life again? You can, and sustain it too!

​IMPATIENCE, PROCRASTINATION & FOCUS:
Cultivate tools that allow you to cut through your own mind's clutter and get things done!

"I teach Mindfulness by combining Meditation, Positive Psychology and Effective Communication in workshops to help adults and young people to gain more happiness, peace and connection by balancing negative emotions and unhealthy patterns of thought and behaviour.  These things helped me and they could help you too." - Neil
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Poppy and I worked together to overcome some of her personal anxieties.

"I really appreciated the time Neil took to understand my current situation, what I want to achieve.  The variety of different methods and ways, plus Neil's obvious experience, made me feel I was in safe hands, even when tackling difficult topics." 
​(Poppy,  Bristol, 1-1 client, March 2016)

The Potential Benefits...

MEDITATION AND REST:
Very Simple and yet profoundly challenging practices that  allow the mind to rest, access to feelings and intuition to be cultivated and a gradual training of the mind to a new way of thinking - based on awareness, patience and compassion, through repetitive, easy practice. We teach a range of practices.

SELF ENQUIRY and  POSITIVE THINKING:  
Use every difficult, unpleasant or painful situation to your advantage, Learn how to change your perspective with skilful questions. 

Just these two tools alone can provide you with an inner peace that will enrich life vastly.
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NEIL: crushing stress, in balance
and also...

​MINDFUL COMMUNICATION:  
The ability to communicate clearly and connect with friends and loved ones without tension & arguing.  This is based on NVC (Non-Violent Communication).

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: 
Understand emotions and how to use them: The skill of EQ can allow you to use emotions as rocket fuel!

​LOVING-SELF-AWARENESS: 
Getting to know and understand yourself in a feeling sense. 

A CLEAR MIND - STRONG FOCUS FROM DISTRACTION:  
Develop skills to combat procrastination and addiction. 

INTIMACY and VULNERABILITY:  
Are you afraid to be seen? How can we remove shame and fear and build connections that are true and valuable?

SELF-ESTEEM and CONFIDENCE:
Develop self belief, confidence, happiness, gratitude and resilience, for the rest of your life. 

COACHING TECHNIQUES:
We teach and practice co-coaching techniques to give you someone to help you as you go.

MEANING, PURPOSE and MOTIVATION: 
Learn how to find your own purpose and create your individual beliefs that help you and your family

RENEWED ENERGY
Learn about how you can use meditation and positive reinforcement on yourself to energise your life again.​

INTUITION CONNECTION - SKILFUL CHOICES: 
Learn how to be discerning and make choices that lead you to love what you do and do what you love! 


​More detail about the that tools I use
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Working at a festival teaching meditation and emotional well being skills
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Tanya wanted to help her son work through some emotional issues and he showed an interest in Mindfulness. 

"I contacted Neil as my son was having difficulties in sleeping (he is 11) . Neil  has an amazing friendly and welcome approach which children relate to and that made the whole process much easier  Neil really "gets it " from the children's perspective" 
(Tanya, 1-1 Client, June 2016)