This course changed my life and our relationship. It was like going to couples therapy with a group of lovely people supporting us along. Thank you so much!  - Alice (and Andrew)

12 Week Online Course.
Open to singles, couples, friends - anyone who wants to build safer connection and feel more love and ease in relationship.
​
​THIS IS FOR YOU IF YOU WANT TO...

  • Understand your traumas, triggers and historic attachment styles, so that it all begins to make sense
  • Learn to self regulate and co-regulate your nervous systems, so that you feel safer and calmer
  • Develop your communication skills so that you can have clearer boundaries, agreements and understanding, so that you feel connected and clear
  • Discover intimacy rituals that can help you come together and find a sense of belonging  
  • Through these practices become more of your authentic self and meet your deeply held longings and therefore feel a sense of ease and security.​​​
I can completely recommend this course. It takes you through the basics in attachment and understanding and connecting with yourself, through to all the healthy ways you can connect to/ communicate with your partner, friends and family. With consideration given on  how to navigate the challenges of different attachment styles. - Suzanne
"Wow Neil, The dedication you put into each and every session - Incredible work!" - Kelly and Greg
Neil's course was so illuminating. I learnt a wealth of information about communicating more effectively in relationships and understand so much more about myself and where I've been going wrong all these years. - Becky

Course Details

How much?
See tickets and pricing at the bottom of this page

Where?
Online - Via Google Meet
(each week is recorded so you can re-watch)

​When: 
Tuesday evenings, 1.5 hrs 6pm - 7:30pm

Next Course Dates: 2025
(All sessions recorded for re-watch)
  • 2nd September - early December 2025​
    • Session 1: 2 Sept
    • Session 2: 9 Sept
    • Session 3: 16 Sept
      Break 
    • Session 4: 30th Sept
    • Session 5: 7th Oct
    • Session 6:  14th Oct
    • Session 7: 21 Oct
      Break 
    • Session 8: 4 Nov
    • Session 9: 11 Nov
    • Session 10: 18 Nov
    • Session 11: 25 Nov
    • Session 12: December (TBC)
      ​​
  • Next course will be Jan 12 - April 14 2026
  • Next course will be  May 8 - July 21 2026

Group Details
​This course is open to couples, singles, polycules and 'its complicated’. We usually have a mix. Please know that all parts of you are welcome and we always have a supportive group of between 8-12 people.

I believe a major part of the learning is having this engaged and supportive group to talk with, practice skills with and share vulnerable challenges with.

During the course people connect via an online group (WhatsApp) and really get a lot from that. People re-watch sessions multiple times. You'll have lifelong access to them and to the wider community. We've forged so many supportive friendships since beginning this course in 2022 and I look forward to welcoming you to the community. 

​Course Schedule: 12 Sessions
​
Sessions 1-4: Understanding Our Projections and Patterns 
  • Session 1 - Trauma and Triggers - Utilising Glimmers and Self Regulation
  • Session 2 - Attachment Styles - Understanding The Origins
  • Session 3 - Self Talk- Meeting Our Painful Parts
  • Session 4 - Self-Awareness- Cultivating Self-Love and Self-Regulation
Sessions 4-8: Communicating More Clearly
  • Session 5 - Listening - Creating a SAFER container
  • Session 6 - Asking  - Developing clarity and courage
  • Session 7 - Boundaries and Agreements
  • Session 8 - Apologising - Utilise the power of rupture and repair
Sessions 9-12: Deepening Intimacy 
  • Session 9 - Appreciation - Use positive reinforcement to create more love
  • Session 10 - Love - Treat Others as They Want To Be Treated
  • Session 11 - Rituals - Make time for deep connection
  • Session 12 - Course Review 

Meet the teacher: Neil Morbey
I'm teaching this course because I think it's so valuable and because I have battled with my own attachment wounding over the years and realised that some key realisations and skills have moved me from relating like a person in the dark to  switching on the lights and seeing my part.   I'm no expert - I'm a learner who is teaching to help others to:
  • Understand your traumas, triggers and historic attachment styles, so that it all begins to makes sense
  • Learn to self and co-regulate your nervous systems, so that you feel safer and calmer
  • Develop your communication skills so that you can have clearer boundaries, agreements and understanding, so that you feel connected and clear
  •  Discover intimacy rituals that can help you come together and find a sense of belonging  
  • Through these practices become more of your authentic self and get meet your deeply held longings

The research I did for the course was based on my psychotherapy, counselling and coaching training and experience. The following resources have been instrumental in designing the course:
  • Attachment Styles:  Mary Ainsworth created these based on John Bowlby's work in the 1950's. She realised that our upbringing could create patterns of relating that are now referred to (in short) as: secure,  avoidant, anxious and 
    disorganized (a mix of anxious and avoidant). Understanding these patterns in ourselves is a cornerstone to relating with more self-awareness.
  • Trauma and Triggers:  The work of Dr. Gabor Maté has led us to understand that trauma is commonplace and is the basis for most 'crime' and ill-health, both mental and physical, and when we understand 'what happened' and the triggers for trauma we can understand how to work with, heal and grow from our traumas. 
  • Communication skills: Modern psychology means that we are now in possession of so many tools for communication and in this course we offer a wide range from NVC, Radical Honesty, NLP, Love Languages, Apology Languages, Mindful Communication and more. 

What do others say?
People LOVE this course and it usually sells out. See my testimonials here. 
"The Building Secure Attachment Course enabled my partner and I to talk about things we've been putting off for years. We are connecting so much more than we used to thanks to this work - thanks Neil, we appreciate your course so much!" - Jo and GG.

Tickets and Pricing

This course is open to couples, singles, polycules and 'its complicated’. We usually have a mix. Please know that all parts of you are welcome and we always have a supportive group of between 8-12 people.

Ticket Prices, per person: 
  • Super Early Bird (Before July 22nd 2025) - £375
  • Early bird Price (Before August 2nd 2025) -  £415
  • Standard price - £455
  • Supporter price (help someone with less money) - £495

Pay via Deposit and Instalments 
Please pay £50 non refundable deposit now to secure your place.
Then pay 50% of the balance on the first session and the final 50% by session 5.

​Supported Tickets: Some people pay a little extra allowing me to provide supported tickets for those who are struggling financially.  I subsidise the first two tickets myself. 
Apply here: Financial Support Application

Refunds:  Admin fee of £10  to process any refunds. No Refunds within two week of the course start date. This is because the places are limited and you will have taken a place for someone else. You can re-sell your ticket, or if I have someone on the wait list I will send their details to you for re-sale. See here for more details. 

Waitlist
​If you've applied and I'm full please fill in the form anyway and you'll be added to the waitlist. It is common for someone to drop out just before the course begins. 
"Just wanted to respond to say I'm appreciating your teaching style, depth of content and your knowledge and understanding of it. It is put across so clearly - so even though it's not all new, it feels clearer than it has before. I'm so glad I booked on!"  -   Jessie
"We loved the structure and the group atmosphere. This course is packed!" - Lu.