When we misunderstand each other we can feel like worst enemies. 
When we understand ourselves first, our wounds, attachment patterns, projections and communication styles then we can begin to understand the other
Intimacy flourishes after we get each other's perspective 
​I help people get each other 
All Sessions are 75 minutes

First: Book a 15 minute discovery call to see if you vibe with my style

Then book your first session.
Fees are £210 to £110 per session (Based on what you can afford)

​Couples work is much more complex than 1-1 work and we all have to work to hold the space as best as possible. For this reason, I recommend sessions are 75 minutes to allow extra space to talk and listen. If you want more time we can add extra minutes on for a pre-agreed fee.

This is the Online Session cost, or if you come to my house (Stroud) please add £10 per session. If you want me to come to you please add £15 for Stroud, £25 for Bristol/ Cheltenham/ Gloucester
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Allow extra room booking and travel fee if you want me to come to you. 
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I am open to working with:
  • ​Individual sessions - for 1-1 work outside of the relationship or even with friends in 1-2 or 1-3 ways that help more people at once.
  • ​Couples Counselling: Resolve differences and let go of the baggage. I engage with you in a process, nurturing and supporting your growth as a couple while respecting both your individual viewpoints.
  • Family Reuniting: We can engage with a family members to help everyone be heard and unite a family again.
  • Monogamous and Polyamorous relationship counselling, marriage counselling, same sex couple counselling, LGBT couple counselling (I identify as cis-male and polyamorous and work within the LGBTQ+ community. I have an open relationship with my female partner).
Tools you could learn together:
  • Intention setting - the way I begin each session 
  • The key is talking and listening - which can be taught! (Here's one way)
  • Expectation setting and boundaries.(instead of control)
  • Mindful ways to deal with our own emotional reactions
  • Mindful communication techniques
  • Timed talks to rebuild honest connection
  • Learning the power and means to express both resentment and appreciation to one another
  • Learning each others' Love Languages 
  • Learning the power of rupture and repair
  • Practices to rekindle intimacy.
  • Deeper touch and intimacy practices.
A typical session

Lasts 75 minutes and includes:
  • pausing practice,
  • listening practice ,
  • focus on communication practice,
  • led by intention, set by the individuals,
  • accountability of agreed actions.

We will be focused on a specific intention with agreed actions. I will make notes and send them to you, along with agreed actions.

Recordings can be made if requested. In talking we can explore what causes negative emotions; such as anger, rage, frustration, guilt, jealousy, worry or stress within the relationship.

I teach simple, effective techniques to healthy communication. I also help by reflecting and acting as a level-headed third party in discussion.

My role is not referee, but advocate for healthy expression and listening. I facilitate you to find your own solutions, in a calm environment on non-judgement.
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"I've had four 1:1 sessions with Neil and am excited about booking the next block. This has absolutely been the best experience of complimentary therapy (or indeed of any therapeutic activity) I've ever had. I have recommended him to pretty much everyone" (Lulu)
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"Neil  has an amazing friendly and welcome approach which children relate to and that made the whole process much easier  Neil really "gets it " (Tanya, 1-1 Family-Relations Client)