Missing warmth and affection?
Arguing about sex, money, in-laws?
Want more peace, harmony and less drama?
​Don’t wait until it’s too late.
Introduction session: £40
The first session is discounted, to see if we work well together.  This is a 75 minute, joint session that I often refer to as 'session zero'. 
6 SESSION PACKAGE: £360
Book a cluster of sessions, which must be used within 3 months. The roadmap is comprised of the following sessions:
  • 0. We would meet for an introductory 75 minute session, in which I get to witness your dynamic and we can talk about a way forward. 
  • 1 + 2. First session with each client individually to clarify on their feelings, needs and overall intention
  • 3, 4, 5: Three more progressive sessions to work through the problems and find solutions, with specific goals each week (or fortnightly).  We may use a listening / talking format on early sessions  to ensure each person's feelings, concerns, desires and intentions are heard and understood.
    We will agree on actions and report back on them in the following session. 
  • 6:. The final session will be used to assess progress and the way forward. 
 Individual Sessions: £65
  • Couples Coaching: £65 per 75 minute session
  • Sliding scale for those in need

Remote working
Skype/telephone sessions available. You can access this work wherever you are in the world. ​
A typical session

Lasts 90 minutes and includes:
  • pausing practice,
  • listening practice ,
  • focus on communication practice,
  • led by intention, set by the individuals,
  • accountability of agreed actions.

We will be focused on a specific intention with agreed actions. I will make notes and send them to you, along with agreed actions.

Recordings can be made if requested. In talking we can explore what causes negative emotions; such as anger, rage, frustration, guilt, jealousy, worry or stress within the relationship.

I teach simple, effective techniques to healthy communication. I also help by reflecting and acting as a level-headed third party in discussion.

My role is not referee, but advocate for healthy expression and listening. I facilitate you to find your own solutions, in a calm environment on non-judgement.
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I am open to working with:
  • ​Individual sessions - for 1-1 work outside of the relationship or even with friends in 1-2 or 1-3 ways that help more people at once.
  • ​Couples Counselling: Resolve differences and let go of the baggage. I engage with you in a process, nurturing and supporting your growth as a couple while respecting both your individual viewpoints.
  • Family Reuniting: We can engage with a family members to help everyone be heard and unite a family again.
  • Monogamous and Polyamorous relationship counselling, marriage counselling, same sex couple counselling, LGBT couple counselling (I identify as cis-male and polyamorous and work within the LGBTQ+ community. I have an open relationship with my female partner).
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"I've had four 1:1 sessions with Neil and am excited about booking the next block. This has absolutely been the best experience of complimentary therapy (or indeed of any therapeutic activity) I've ever had. I have recommended him to pretty much everyone" (Lulu)
Tools you could learn together:
  • Intention setting - the way I begin each session 
  • The key is talking and listening - which can be taught! (Here's one way)
  • Expectation setting and boundaries.(instead of control)
  • Mindful ways to deal with our own emotional reactions
  • Mindful communication techniques
  • Timed talks to rebuild honest connection
  • Learning the power and means to express both resentment and appreciation to one another
  • Learning each others' Love Languages (HEARTS)
  • Learning how to say SORRY and make amends. 
  • Practices to rekindle intimacy.
  • Deeper touch and intimacy practices.
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"Neil  has an amazing friendly and welcome approach which children relate to and that made the whole process much easier  Neil really "gets it " (Tanya, 1-1 Family-Relations Client)