"Neil  beautifully held a space that felt safe and contained. The workshop was well structured and skilfully curated. I want more!" - Lara
Would you like more playful connection?
This page shows my 'Playful-Desires' workshops, which will become my new website soon. Spaces that I craft to feel safe and inclusive, yet fun, exciting and allow you to explore your shadows, your edges and your innocent playful desires. 

Future Workshops (or sign up to the email list).

2023
2024

 
Past Workshops
  • 2023: July/August: Facilitator and Dungeon Guide at Touch and Play
  • 2023: March 25th: 11am- 5 pm:  Cuddles and Consent
  • 2023: April 15th: 11am - 10pm:  Kink: Teasing and Tantalizing
  • 2023: May 14th: 11am - 5pm:  Authentic Relating
  • 2023: June 24th: 10am - 10pm:  Kink: Diving into Sub/Dom Dynamics
  • 2023: March 4th: 10am-10pm: Caring Kink 2
  • 2023: January 4-5th: Caring Kink
  • 2022: October: 2-Day Caring Kink 
  • 2022: September: Wild Connections 
  • 2022: July: Facilitator and Dungeon Guide at Touch and Play
  • 2022: June 11th: Play Party Skills
  • 2022: May: Authentic Relating Multi-Week Adventure
  • 2022: May 15th: Awaken Your Senses
  • 2022: February: Platonic Pleasure 
  • 2016: 14th February: Platonic Touch and Intimacy (This was my first touch event, then I went away and did some more learning before picking it up again post-pandemic)​
Kink, with Care. 

The work of Kink includes BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism) which is a lot of big scary words, I know.  My mission is to remove the stigma and fear from these wonderful, playful and innocent practices and help people discover the benefits of a safe space to explore our shadows,  edges and innocent playful desires.

Within the workshop we will always begin with meeting ourselves and each other, to settle our nervous systems and feel connected and safe. We will then work on knowing our 'no' and getting our clear consent practices in place. This is embodied work and my aim is to help people experience their bodies in the moment, so they know what they need and how to communicate it. I work hard to make a space where participants also feel enabled to communicate their needs. This is one of my strengths as a facilitator.  I understand the importance and the challenge of this.

Once safety is established we can enjoy the joy of things like impact play, rope play, breath play and dominance and submission. These activities we do in cooperation, stepping into and out of roles, but interlacing it all with CARE. We bring in care during everything we do, so that we can feel held and empowered even when we are engaging in acts of surrender. 

These are largely sensual, (non sexual) spaces. However we are working with sexual energy and workshops will have differing boundaries on nudity and allowed interactions. 

Please read/ watch the testimonials and let me know if you have any questions.

​Here are the next ones I have planned - click to book
"It felt safe and contained, all of Neil's teachings were clear and useful, the activities were fun, and there was a good balance between feeling safe and comfortable while also exploring slightly outside comfort zones. The space was lovely, the people were lovely, the music was lovely.  More Workshops Please!" - Grace
Neil’s workshop created a uniquely relaxed space for me to feel safe in exploring new aspects of my sexuality. The combination of playfulness and taking it seriously as a practice where people have to be both vulnerable and brave was exactly what I needed as a beginner kinkster.  - Ruth
Neil (and Clare) share through their own lived experiences so it feels authentic. As facilitators they made it easier for others to learn for themselves, rather than dictating how to do things; letting go of technique and making space for curiosity, care and fun. If there were more spaces like this where people learnt their boundaries and expressed their desires without fear of judgement, the world would be a better place. So grateful for the experiences (both the challenging and pleasurable ones!) that Neil’s workshops have given me. - Ruth