As with a lot of my work I offer this exploration in a way that is non-expert, but is informed by my own journey. Yes I work in a trauma informed way, but what I offer is not therapy, but instead spaces to explore, with guidance and holding, your own desires and fears. I believe that individuals know themselves best and don't require others to tell them what is right and wrong, but instead need permissive spaces to explore and understand for themselves. This is why I continue this work, even though I am going through my own exploration and recovery. 

I look forward to journeying with you as you come to some of my workshops:

More video testimonials at the bottom of the page

​Caring Kink (BDSM) In-Person Workshops (Bristol, UK)
Break for summer festivals:
Future workshops in Bristol for you calendar:
 
  • October 11th 2025 - Caring Kink: Pain & Pleasure
  • November 22nd: Launch Party of Playful Desires: Winter 'Daytime Playtime Party' (TBC)

    2026

  • January 17th - Caring Kink: Teasing and Tantalizing: 
  • Feb 24th  Caring Kink:  Power Play of Dominance and Submission
  • March 28th Caring Kink: Tying and Holding 
  • April 18th Caring Kink:  Worship, Punishment and Reward
  • May 9th Caring Kink: Transforming Shame
  • May 23rd: Summer 'Daytime Playtime Party'
  • October 17 Caring Kink:  Pain and Pleasure
  • Nov 21  Caring Kink:  Teasing and Tantalizing: ​
  • December 5th: Winter 'Daytime Playtime Party'
I craft spaces that are safe, inclusive and fun to allow you to explore your shadows, your edges and play with your innocent 'playful- desires'. 

Want to know more about Caring Kink and what happens in the spaces? Scroll down the page to see a full run down, plus testimonials from past participants.  
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"Neil - I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for yesterday's workshop. You held the space so well - so mindful, thoughtful and caring and I learnt so much about myself which is still unravelling itself. Keep doing the amazing work you are doing and creating such beautiful safe containers and connections" - Jo
"Neil  beautifully held a space that felt safe and contained. The workshop was well structured and skilfully curated. I want more!" - Lara
Other Group Workshops

I also offer other GROUP WORKSHOPS and these include: 

April 2025: Building Secure Attachments online 12 Week Course ​
More about Caring Kink
​The work of Kink includes BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism) which is a lot of big scary words, I know.  My mission is to remove the stigma and fear from these wonderful, playful and innocent practices and help people discover the benefits of a safe space to explore our shadows,  edges and innocent playful desires.

Within the workshop we will always begin with meeting ourselves and each other, to settle our nervous systems and feel connected and safe. We will then work on knowing our 'no' and getting our clear consent practices in place. This is embodied work and my aim is to help people experience their bodies in the moment, so they know what they need and how to communicate it. I work hard to make a space where participants also feel enabled to communicate their needs. This is one of my strengths as a facilitator.  I understand the importance and the challenge of this.

Once safety is established we can enjoy the joy of kinky play -  things like impact play, rope play, breath play and dominance and submission. These activities we do in cooperation, stepping into and out of roles, but interlacing it all with CARE. We bring in care during everything we do, so that we can feel held and empowered even when we are engaging in acts of surrender. 

Caring Kink principles:
  •  C: Check in: at the start and throughout using pauses, squeezes and close attention. Aftercare includes check-ins too, and extends to the day or week after.  Aftercare is for both partners. 
  •  A: Accidents happen: Roll with them. We treat mistakes as opportunities for connection and love, instead of blame and shame. This is a practice of:
  •  R: Reconnect: Connection is the focus. When we notice we lose presence due to performance anxiety or something similar we slow down and pause and reconnect, following play, pleasure and love. 
  • E: Encouraging each others truth: We encourage a clear 'no' by asking for it up front, and celebrating someone / ourselves when it's given. When someone expresses desires we celebrate them, even if it's not our cup of tea - never yucking someone else's yum's 

I create sensual, (non sexual) spaces for exploration of these CARE principles. However we are working with sexual energy and workshops will have differing boundaries on nudity and allowed interactions.  Please read/ watch the testimonials and let me know if you have any questions.
"It felt safe and contained, all of Neil's teachings were clear and useful, the activities were fun, and there was a good balance between feeling safe and comfortable while also exploring slightly outside comfort zones. The space was lovely, the people were lovely, the music was lovely.  More Workshops Please!" - Grace
I have 5 key workshops, that give a full CARIING KINK CURRICULUTM. Below I highlight the focus of each workshop:

1. Pain and Pleasure: A focus on the SM of BDSM, with less emphasis on power play, but working in cooperation to explore: 
  • Sensation Play
  • Psychology and Physically interconnections
  • Spanking exploration
  • Hair pulling, Biting 
  • Primal Play
2. Teasing and Tantalizing: A focus on DS and SM aspects, building connection through anticipation and presence. 
  • Erogenous Zone Mapping
  • Wax Play
  • Feathers
  • Begging play
3. Power Play of 'Dom and Sub': A focus on DS elements specifically allows a deepening of polarity play. 
  • Energetics of dominance and submission
  • Using eyes, words and touch
  • Breath Play
  • Role Play including pet / slave 
4. Tying and Holding: A focus on BD and DS elements, with an emphasis on connection instead of technical ropework. 
  • Basic 'One Rope' Technique 
  • Focus on Connection, Relaxation and Sensual Play
  • Ribbon Play: Giving and receiving gifts
  • Holding and aftercare
5. Worship, Punishment and Reward: Focusing on Discipline and DS dynamics is, for me, enlivening and can build deep connection and reverence, alongside playfulness and surrender.  
  • Getting into the mindset of worshiper and worshiped
  • Foot worship
  • Explore roles/dynamics of slave/mater or goddess/god and devotee. 
  • Worship, Punishment and Reward
6. Transforming Shame into Sexy!: To be liberated from our shame is to share and play with it.  By exploring edgy degradation or humiliation acts we can find so much joy and pleasure in the play and so much connection. This could include: 
  • Selling ourselves and letting ourselves be big and flamboyant
  • Expressing our little selves and being coddled and looked after
  • Different shame edges based on gender conditioning. Eg for men it may be emasculation  / sissy play or for women it could be sl*tting about or removing the beauty mask.  
  • Clothed and unclothed play ​- it can be very erotic to have one person clothed and the other nearly naked. 
Neil’s workshop created a uniquely relaxed space for me to feel safe in exploring new aspects of my sexuality. The combination of playfulness and taking it seriously as a practice where people have to be both vulnerable and brave was exactly what I needed as a beginner kinkster.  - Ruth
Neil shares through his own lived experiences so it feels authentic. As a facilitator he made it easier for others to learn for themselves, rather than dictating how to do things; letting go of technique and making space for curiosity, care and fun. If there were more spaces like this where people learnt their boundaries and expressed their desires without fear of judgement, the world would be a better place. So grateful for the experiences (both the challenging and pleasurable ones!) that Neil’s workshops have given me. - Ruth 
 
Past Workshops
  1. Sat 12 April 2025- Caring Kink:  Worship!
  2. Sat 3 May 2025 - Caring Kink: Transforming Shame (into sexy)
  3. Sat 15 March 2025- Caring Kink: Tying and Holding
  4. Sat 15th Feb 2025 - Caring Kink: Power Play of 'Dom and Sub'   
  5. Sat 25th Jan 2025- Caring Kink:  Teasing and Tantalising
  6. 2024: Oct 26th:  Caring Kink,  Pain and Pleasure
  7. 2024: July/August: Lead curator, MC and teacher:  Touch and Play
  8. 2024: Taught at Buddhafield,
  9. Embodied Love and
  10. Festival of Sensuality
  11. 2024: April 26th: Blindfolded Sensation Savouring
  12. 2024: February  17th: Authentic Relating + Touch 
  13. 2024: January 27th: Caring Kink - Power Play of Dominance and Submission
  14. 2023: November 18th: Caring Kink - Tying and Holding (With CR)
  15. 2023: October 14th: Authentic Relating + Touch ​
  16. 2023: September 30th: Caring Kink: Erogenous Zone Awakening  (With CR)
  17. 2023: September: Being Together Collaboration 
  18. 2023: July/August: Facilitator and Dungeon Guide at Touch and Play
  19. 2023: July: Touch and dance workshops at Buddhafield 
  20. 2023: June Dance workshops at Emerging Hearts
  21. 2023: March 25th: 11am- 5 pm:  Cuddles and Consent 
  22. 2023: April 15th: 11am - 10pm:  Kink: Teasing and Tantalizing  (With CR)
  23. 2023: May 14th: 11am - 5pm:  Authentic Relating
  24. 2023: June 24th: 10am - 10pm:  Kink: Diving into Sub/Dom Dynamics (With CR)
  25. 2023: March 4th: 10am-10pm: Caring Kink 2 (With CR)
  26. 2023: January 4-5th: Caring Kink (With CR)
  27. 2022: October: 2-Day Caring Kink (With CR)
  28. 2022: September: Wild Connections 
  29. 2022: July: Facilitator and Dungeon Guide at Touch and Play
  30. 2022: July: Touch and dance workshops at Buddhafield 
  31. 2022: June Dance workshops at Emerging Hearts
  32. 2022: June 11th: Play Party Skills
  33. 2022: May: Authentic Relating Multi-Week Adventure
  34. 2022: May 15th: Awaken Your Senses
  35. 2022: February: Platonic Pleasure 
  36. 2016: 14th February: Platonic Touch and Intimacy (This was my first touch event, then I went away and did some more learning before picking it up again post-pandemic)​