These Are The Tools I Use:

1. mental health SKILLS

The mind is at the centre of everything we experience. By slowing down and tuning in we can begin to highlight negative beliefs, change them  and nurture positive states of mind

• Counselling, Coaching and Mentoring - For recreating good mental health (based on Person Centred, Attachment Theory, TA, IFS, CI, Somatic Experiencing) 
• Meditation - NOW - Centring our attention
• EBB & FLOW - Learning to pause and check in
• STOP (Blog) - Centring the mental chatter and doing THE WORK
• RE-ANCHOR - Using visualisation to feel excited by your future vision
• FOMO to JOMO - Learning to appreciate instead of worry
• PIES & Gravy - Checking in and Gratitude practices 
• Polyvagal breathwork - Nervous system regulation

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2. RELATIONSHIPS sKILLS

Human beings are pack animals. Yet no one has taught us the vital socialisation skills. I believe we  need to learn how to set boundaries and ask for help, amongst other things. This is no simple task and so I help via:

• Attachment Theory - Building Secure Attachments 
• Relationship Coaching- using EFT - Emotional Focused Therapy
• FAIL - Rejection Therapy - Getting out there and meeting people!
• RAW Relating - Express yourself and ask for what you want (Acknowledge the split)
• HEARTS - Love Languages
• WILD - Heart Longing Communication
• SAFER - Communication for Vulnerability 
• SORRY - Apology languages 
• Neil's Pleasure Collaboration ROTA  - Based on the wheel  of consent - to help you gain more pleasure! 
• Social Skills and Rejection Therapy - I help clients to get out there and learn to have conversations and make friends

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​3. tRAUMA RECOVERY

NERVOUS SYSTEM REACTION REPROGRAMMING: We can actually overcome trauma and reactions by focusing on the inter-relationship between mind and body: The nervous System: 

• Counselling, Coaching and Mentoring - for nervous system reprogramming
• THE WORK - Changing our underlying beliefs and stories
• Mantras - Developing compassionate and positive self talk
• ONE belief at a time - changing the belief systems yourself!
• IFS / Voice Dialogue - Seen, Soothed, Secure
• Rewind Therapy - Replay the traumatic movie to calm it
• EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprogramming 
• IFS: Fooling and Voice Dialogue: Expressing all our hidden parts
• TRE: Trauma Release Exercises

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​4. bODY-WORK 

Working with the body is fundamental to embedding calm, confident and clear states of being. I aim to do this using: ​​​

• Massage and Bodywork
• Somatic Experiencing 
• TRE: Trauma Release Exercises
• Dance: Blues / Fusion Partner Dance / Contact Improv

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To Help You Overcome...

​STRESS AND ANXIETY 
21st Century culture and mass misinformation creates an abundance of stress and anxiety to such a level that people experience overwhelming stress, daily., leading to burnout, depression and suicide. You can change this, internally. 

WORRY AND ANXIETY
Modern culture cultivates endless competition. We show you how to FEEL deeply good about yourself- appreciate. 

PHYSICAL PAIN / ILLNESS  
I have tools that can help accept and therefore reduce pain - we can also cultivate the ability to relax the body which improves immunity, recovery and long-term health (see the science here). I have personally recovered from sever Scoliosis and spinal surgery. 

SELF-SABOTAGE AND DEPRESSION
Address negative emotional drops and thought spirals about ending life: helping people find ways to live happily. Learn how to find that place again that makes life worth living and combats the ENERGY SUCKING FLU of depression!

TENSION AND ANNOYANCE
Learn to reduce your judgements and anger of others through awareness of your self.  You can cultivate patience and compassion, with ease in your body and mind.

CONFUSION AND INDECISIVENESS
Feel like you've lost your way or can't make up your mind? We show you simple tools to help.  

Life can get us down - but why?

​GRIEF AND STUCK EMOTIONS
If you can't let go of a loss, we can help you move on.

APATHY AND LACK OF MOTIVATION
Need to find natural motivation, meaning and passion for life again? You can, and sustain it too!

​IMPATIENCE, PROCRASTINATION & FOCUS:
Cultivate tools that allow you to cut through your own mind's clutter and get things done!

"I teach Mindfulness by combining Meditation, Positive Psychology and Effective Communication in workshops to help adults and young people to gain more happiness, peace and connection by balancing negative emotions and unhealthy patterns of thought and behaviour.  These things helped me and they could help you too." - Neil

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Poppy and I worked together to overcome some of her personal anxieties.

"I really appreciated the time Neil took to understand my current situation, what I want to achieve.  The variety of different methods and ways, plus Neil's obvious experience, made me feel I was in safe hands, even when tackling difficult topics." 
​(Poppy,  Bristol, 1-1 client, March 2016)

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The Potential Benefits...

MEDITATION AND REST:
Very Simple and yet profoundly challenging practices that  allow the mind to rest, access to feelings and intuition to be cultivated and a gradual training of the mind to a new way of thinking - based on awareness, patience and compassion, through repetitive, easy practice. We teach a range of practices.

SELF ENQUIRY and  POSITIVE THINKING:  
Use every difficult, unpleasant or painful situation to your advantage, Learn how to change your perspective with skilful questions. 

Just these two tools alone can provide you with an inner peace that will enrich life vastly.
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NEIL: crushing stress, in balance

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and also...

​MINDFUL COMMUNICATION:  
The ability to communicate clearly and connect with friends and loved ones without tension & arguing.  This is based on NVC (Non-Violent Communication).

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: 
Understand emotions and how to use them: The skill of EQ can allow you to use emotions as rocket fuel!

​LOVING-SELF-AWARENESS: 
Getting to know and understand yourself in a feeling sense. 

A CLEAR MIND - STRONG FOCUS FROM DISTRACTION:  
Develop skills to combat procrastination and addiction. 

INTIMACY and VULNERABILITY:  
Are you afraid to be seen? How can we remove shame and fear and build connections that are true and valuable?

SELF-ESTEEM and CONFIDENCE:
Develop self belief, confidence, happiness, gratitude and resilience, for the rest of your life. 

COACHING TECHNIQUES:
We teach and practice co-coaching techniques to give you someone to help you as you go.

MEANING, PURPOSE and MOTIVATION: 
Learn how to find your own purpose and create your individual beliefs that help you and your family

RENEWED ENERGY
Learn about how you can use meditation and positive reinforcement on yourself to energise your life again.​

INTUITION CONNECTION - SKILFUL CHOICES: 
Learn how to be discerning and make choices that lead you to love what you do and do what you love! 

Working at a festival teaching meditation and emotional well being skills

Tanya wanted to help her son work through some emotional issues and he showed an interest in Mindfulness. 

"I contacted Neil as my son was having difficulties in sleeping (he is 11) . Neil  has an amazing friendly and welcome approach which children relate to and that made the whole process much easier  Neil really "gets it " from the children's perspective" 
(Tanya, 1-1 Client, June 2016)

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