Positively Mindful
  • Home
  • About
  • GROUPS
  • Workplace
  • Coaching
  • BOOKING
  • Blog
  • Home
  • About
  • GROUPS
  • Workplace
  • Coaching
  • BOOKING
  • Blog

Blog! Seize the day, then let it go 

What is enlightenment and what's the process of getting there?

10/9/2015

0 Comments

 

Enlightenment is a big word that doesn't really mean much. It is a feeling of lightness. Perhaps this comes from a belief or an understanding or an attitude, or just simply laughter at something funny, or a beautiful sunny day enjoying the grass.

The permenent state of enlightenment is a mythical place where we feel this constantly - it doesn't work like that. If we are always wishing to 'attain' this we never quite succeed. Here is why: it's a process:

YOUTH

When you are young you accept life  as amazing and magical.  If you have a healthy upbringing this is supported and you develop a healthy self-esteem. If you have abuse or neglect you can develop some self-beliefs, judgements and tension in the body that will cause pain and shorten your enjoyment of the innocence of childhood. Either way there is a phase in your life that is new and forms your self beliefs.

 

ADOLECENCE

As you grow up and develop a sense of identity and an ‘understanding’ of how the world works (based on the culture of fear and scarcity usually) you forget about the magic and start to take it all very seriously. It can be fun but also very scary, dangerous, ugly, painful and harmful. Teenage and young adult years are filled with change, but that is sometimes harder to embrace once one ‘thinks’ one know what the world is about. Social understanding can lead to embarrassment, self-hatred, fear, depression etc. Or if one has support or a good early sense of self-esteem it can be a wonderful time of making friends, learning skills and finding direction. . Either way there is a phase in your life that is new and forms your direction.

 

ADULTHOOD

At some point in your adult life, when one is ready, we start investigating deeply our beliefs; ones feelings and ones relationship with the world a lot of realisations happen. There are many paths to these realisations; pain, dis-ease, depression, music, dance, breakdown, spiritual awakening, following your desire, tantra…. As many as there are thoughts in your head. The journey can be a painful struggle or a battle or a near death experience. It can also be a gentle allowing, or a disciplined and patient observing, or a screaming thrill-ride, or an orgasmic melting. If you really pay attention you get to choose. Either way this is a period of investigation and understanding. To know oneself.

 

RELISATIONS

So what do these realisations bring? Well, nothing physical. It’s something non-tangible – a connection with your nature - a remembering that the world IS amazing and magical and beautiful and rich and ever changing. It can also bring a new sense of power paradoxically tinged with powerlessness. Faith that everything is perfect and you are fully responsible, but only if you let go of needing and control. That is the real paradox – in order to be truly powerful one must surrender. Anything else is tinged with a hint of fear of loss or lack. Depending on the support through the other stages, interactions and reading, education and which path you chose you will get there either quickly of slowly, painfully or easily, joyfully or angrily… or you may never quite get there until your last moments, when you are forced to face the nature of your temporary reality. This is a period of enlightenment and there are many paths.

 

CLARITY

So let’s imagine we have got to this place, this attitude and understanding that the world is perfectly unfolding in magic. So what? Then what?

Well now you get to play. Really play. There will be fear and you can allow the fear and do the stuff you love anyway. There will be sadness and joy and disgust and pain and you can relax and allow all of them, paying attention and seeing the beauty or resisting and enjoying the fight and the thrill of swimming with or against the flow. Deep down you understand your beliefs are just that and you know what you want. This is a time of clarity.

 

ENLIGHTMENT

I call enlightenment ‘Embracing the mystery’. It doesn’t mean losing your curiosity – quite the opposite. One can still quest for scientific understanding or spiritual connection and awakening or learning new skills and having challenging relationships. But now one does these things from a place of love. One does things for the love of it, not because of some consequence if one doesn’t do it. Life isn’t so serious that things are imperative. There may be ‘needs’ in order to ‘accomplish a goal’ (which often feels great), but at the end of the day you know that those goals are fun and part of the joy of life, in the same way as mistakes, failure, rejection, loss and hardship. If you fail it doesn’t mean anything about who-you-are (deep down) or even what-you-can-do. You know that physical life is temporary and ever changing and you can handle anything, be anything, do anything that you set your mind to. So what do you want to do today? That is a mystery to me.

0 Comments



Leave a Reply.

    Authors

    Neil Morbey is a meditation teacher, group facilitator and inspiration guide for Positively-Mindful.com

    Subscribe to our mailing list

    * indicates required

    Archives

    February 2021
    November 2020
    September 2020
    May 2020
    March 2020
    December 2019
    November 2019
    September 2019
    July 2019
    June 2019
    April 2019
    March 2019
    January 2019
    December 2018
    October 2018
    September 2018
    January 2018
    November 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    October 2015
    September 2015
    July 2015

    Categories

    All
    Anxiety
    Beliefs
    Benefits / Possibilities
    Breath
    Choice
    Communication
    Drama
    Education
    Enlightenment
    Influence
    Language
    Meditation
    Metta
    Mindfulness
    Obligation
    Pain
    Procrastination
    Productivity
    Psychology
    Qigong
    Retreat
    Schools
    Taoism
    Vipassana
    Work
    Wu Wei

    RSS Feed

    All blogs: 

    • Breath Works: practices to program BOLD focus.
    • Procrastination part 3: TURNING THE SHIP AROUND
    • Loosen your TIES to suffering. 
    • Understanding Procrastination Part 2: Just do it now.
    • What happens in a 1 hour mindfulness class?
    • Understanding Procrastination 
    • Transforming Hatred with Kindness - Storytime!
    • Radical Honesty and Non-Violent Communication
    • When Feedback hurts - Own your Shit - Take a SEAT
    • My Summer So Far
    • No pain, no gain?
    • Life is like an echo... echooo... echooooo...
    • Etymology and Mindfulness of Language
    • An Awesome or Choresome Life?
    • Mindfulness for Young People?
    • Explore the depths of your ocean.
    • Let Go and Be - escape the Drama triangle! 
    • The Importance of Self Expression
    • THE IMPORTANCE OF FEEDBACK
    • Don't Mindfill
    • Love is messy, scary, risky... Love and need?
    • Awareness of the road!
    • Dealing with the emotional drop
    • Tools for patience in meditation and in life.
    • Useful language and tools for creating healthy discussion.
    • Craving the crux: 10 lessons learned from my rock climbing addiction
    • PLAYFULNESS AND PRESENCE: TEDX BELFAST 2015
    • Orestes, The Furies and The Eumenides (Kindly ones). A story of vengeance, guilt and forgiveness
    • Learning barefoot: feeling more
    • Musings on Choice and Obligation
    • What is enlightenment and what's the process of getting there?
    • What is Mindfulness and Why Practice?
    • My Vipassana Retreat Experience

    ​


Proudly powered by Weebly